We’ll look for love in the aisles of the grocery store, the pump at the gas station, the friend of the friend, the hell-on-earth APPS before ever thinking to look in a mirror. Without confronting that reflection, I don’t think we can even begin to understand what we want, let alone what we deserve. So let’s start here.
In honor of Love Month and at the risk of being a little embarrassing, I want us to write a love letter to ourselves, because we deserve it more than anyone. Get a pen and paper—or a clean Google Doc—and follow me.
Step 1: Set the vibes
Before we start, take a deep breath. Close your eyes for a few seconds. Imagine a version of yourself that is deeply loved—matter of fact, imagine you’re speaking to your seven-year-old self, the version of you you’d treat with the most tenderness.
Get cozy. Light a candle, make some tea, put on your favorite album. Don’t think about anything or anyone. Be here with me, right now.
Step 2: Begin with a loving greeting
How would you address someone you love? Star Shine, Angel Baby, My Beloved, Sugar Lips? Pick one, and apply it to yours truly.
Step 3: Tell yourself how much you appreciate you
Now, I want you to take a moment and think about everything you’ve been through—the highs, the lows, the times you wanted to give up but didn’t. What strength, what resilience, what beauty exists within you. Write about it.
What is…
A challenge you’ve overcome that you’re proud of?
A quality you love about yourself?
A moment when you showed up for yourself, even when it was hard?
Don’t tell me—tell the page!
Step 4: Celebrate what sets you apart
What’s different about you? What makes you stand out, even if you perceive standing out as a negative? Write about it. But the challenge is, whatever you pick, you have to see it in a positive light.
Do you love making people laugh?
Do you admire your own curiosity?
Do you do something very differently from everyone else you know?
What’s beautiful about it?
Step 5: Forgive yourself
New paragraph: This is your chance to let go. Write yourself a message of forgiveness for anything you need to release.
The times you didn’t stand up for yourself.
The relationships that didn’t work out.
The moments you doubted your worth.
Here’s an example:
"I forgive you for being hard on yourself when you were just doing your best. I forgive you for the times you settled for less than you deserved. You are learning, and that is enough."
Step 6: Speak it into existence
Now, imagine your future self—the one who has stepped fully into love, abundance, and joy. What does that version of you look and feel like? Speak to them as if they already exist. Maybe they already do.
Example:
"I see you. You are surrounded by love, not because you chased it, but because you finally saw that it was within you all along. You are safe, you are whole, you are enough."
Step 7: Close with love
You opened your letter with love, so you better close it the same way! How would you say goodbye to your favorite person so that they know without a doubt how much you adore them?
Final step if you dare: Read it aloud
Once you've written your love letter, I dare you to read it back to yourself. Feel the words, let them sink in. Look in the mirror as you read. Let yourself receive the message.
Keep this letter somewhere special. Read it whenever you need a reminder of who you are. Or, if you’re ready to release it, burn it with intention—you can make space for new love to flow in.
This is your love story, and it starts with you.
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